FEMALE SEXUAL MYTHS: AGE
The myths regarding the female are basically different from those about the male. In general, age and appearance are mainly responsible for them—the younger the better. The attractive female has more sex appeal than the plain Jane. Women are also worried about the size, appearance and elasticity of their breasts, whether they are firm or loose and sagging after childbirth. Fantasies about sex and orgasm are also prevalent in the female. The media have projected that the rougher the sex, the better for her, and innumerable women accept it as a part of their lives though they suffer pain and anguish and crave for gentleness in love. But the emancipated Indian female expects to be orgasmic during sex—in fact, wants multiple orgasms. AGE: In all cultures, and more so in our country, age plays an important part in the choice of a female partner. A 60-year-old male would be happy to have a 16-year-old partner. This fantasy about young women is also brought out in Kalyanamalla's Ananga Ranga published in the fifteenth or sixteenth century. A bala is a young girl up to her sixteenth year; from sixteen to thirty, she is known as taruni, a young woman. From thirty to fifty-five, she is a praddha or a fully grown-up woman. An old woman is called vradha. Kalyanamalla recommends that after a man has sex with a bala, he gains in strength and vigour, whilst intercourse with a taruni makes him lose his strength. Finally, any sex with a praddha would make a man old. He is only supposed to talk to her about the moon! Is it any wonder that in India old men still run after young girls? So do their Western counterparts, but they have now found that older and experienced women are better and more responsive during sex than the inexperienced balas.